Hookup culture, anal sex, tantric sex discussion

great evening everybody uh thanks for joining us this is sex and dippity i'm dr lemore blockman and i have david with me in the studio yay oh thank you thank you for having me how are you how is everything uh i'm doing uh great because because i'm here yeah you know and i you know and i had such a fun time last week and so yeah i'm glad you had me back yes definitely and our listeners uh enjoyed it very much i got a few good feedbacks um from people and um i'm very excited to have you here wow i'm always excited so how was your weekend how was your week any is anything new and exciting happened i did a comedy show last night and uh by the way my name is dave corrado yeah you know i want you to say it because i want people to catch your comedy well yeah and um but i had like a really good i was hosting a show on saturday and um it was really fun so you had a good audience and yeah yeah it was a nice crowd and uh i got some good laughs yeah that's that's really all i need to fulfill my ego i know aren't we all like interested in these you know we have to have these taps on the shoulder well people telling us how great we are well i've told you we live for that i've told you you're great oh honey you are too it's really no but it's fun um i i'm i am i was i was thinking about a bunch of uh different things that i wanted to run by you and talk to you about but and there's so many topics that i you know um being a researcher and someone that deals with with sexuality every day all day um i come across a lot of new and somewhat exciting things somewhat bizarre things and somewhat just you know in general things that people come up and talk about and one of the things that i've been doing is i've been doing a lot of things that i i was talking to a bunch of um college kids and they mentioned you know there's this term that people love using hooking up okay i'm not a big fan of the hookup thing i mean it's like casual casual hooking up yeah and i'm getting to it like how do you feel about that term in general it's not our generation is maybe less you know of the hookup generation well when i was younger i wish i could have hooked up with a hookup but i'm not a big fan of the hookup generation but i i tried to hook up but i couldn't and um you know i don't know it's like uh you know if if you're responsible and you are protected and then and that kind of thing i guess it might be okay but you know in terms of like feelings like emotion right you know is that good or bad i i think guys maybe are more want to hook up more than women i don't know i don't know and that's the that's the assumption i think that the general assumption is that two things one that men are more interested in hooking up than women and secondly that this new newer generation or you know people that in their 20s now are more into hooking up or having like a one-night stand or a booty call all these terms you know that i'm in love with um then the older generation and i went and checked because i'm you know being a again being a researcher in this field i'm more interested in the scientific part of it than what people are saying and then i went and checked and there are a few studies that talk about hooking up then and now and uh the question of the study specific one that i came across was whether a group of people from 88 to 96 were hooking up less than people then from the generation now between i don't know oh two and oh ten wait you're saying that the the older people like between 88 years old no no 88 1988 and 1996 that generation today no not the 88 year olds i don't think they're hooking up right now hopefully they are but i've heard stories that like you know in old age homes that women oh yeah my grandma was a killer in the oh my god she was playing around for me um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um um well if they are I mean I you know I wish them I don't know cuz like when I was younger I mean yeah that was like my total dream but yeah of course but it didn't happen so your college years were not as exciting you say well my college years I learned a few things about you know art and you know and stuff like that right and and you know ideas and stuff like you know like imagination and like dreaming and stuff like that but I did not really hook up too much not not as nearly as much as I wish I did yeah you know cuz you know I'm a I'm a guy you know and I like to have sex whenever I have news for you women like that too yeah Very much so. It's like, well, from the attitude that women have given to me. Yeah, well. I don't know. We're all such coy and demure. We have no interest in sex. We're just having an orgasm allegedly for you guys. I'm joking, of course. I mean, we're all human people. Yeah, but women have an orgasmic potential by far bigger than the male. And I don't want to even start going there because in a nutshell, you know, we are the first sex. Sorry. No, no. You know, it's like which came first, the chicken or the egg? It was the chicken, I think. So it was like, you know. Possibly. Oh, and by the way, happy Irish St. Patrick's Day. Oh, yeah, yeah. Are you celebrating it? Because you are Irish. I am Irish. Yeah. And so I never, first of all, I'm not Irish. And secondly, I don't drink. So. Really? Well, I weigh 90 pounds. You are very thin and firm. I can't really. Do you work out? I don't. You don't? But I have sex. That's good exercise. And we'll get to that. Yes. And it's true. It is good exercise. I want to go back to this, but I just want to say that the study that I mentioned prior found that people today between 2002 and 2010 are not having more sex than people in prior years. That generation. Really? Yes. That they're not. Well, you know why? Why? It's because of like, you know, diseases. And, you know, when I grew up, I graduated from high school in 84. And that was like just before the AIDS. Yes. The HIV. Yeah. And so that like kind of put a kibosh on the whole. Right. Right. People were extremely afraid. And, you know, regardless of condoms. They were really afraid. They were really scared because nobody knew, you know, what was going on and how you can contract it and everything. But the thing is, today, I think that and to me, it was kind of surprising because I thought for one that they do have more sex because because, you know, people are more kind of open about it and less. And I think that the whole there's always something, you know, STD is always a scary thing and people are afraid. But still, I think that comparing to late 80s. Early 90s, people are less afraid and know more about things and know how to practice, you know, safer sex and stuff. But I think what this study suggested was that and that's the reason why I brought up hooking up that people use that term very openly and very vastly like they don't really mean hooking up, not necessarily mean doesn't necessarily mean having sex because when people are saying it. And that way that is why the assumption was wrong that people are having more sex because they're not. They just refer to any anything of sexual nature is hooking up like, I don't know, maybe kissing, maybe touching, maybe doing stuff together that has some some sexual nature, but not necessarily per se having sex. And so every time someone says, oh, I hooked up with this woman or I hooked up with this guy. People assume that it's that's like in their head. Wild harem sex. There's a lot of sex going on with like between five people, but it's not. You know, I can I can talk about my cousin, also named Dave. OK, shout out today. But, you know, he you know, he's married now and he's got two kids. And you know, he told me, you know, he he married this woman, beautiful girl named Kristen. Mm hmm. And he said that, you know, they hooked up in high school and now they're married. Yeah. And it's like hooked up. I don't know. What does it mean? Yeah. Does it mean like dated? What does it mean? Did you guys jump in bed? Did you guys date? Did you guys did you touch her breasts? What do you do? Yeah, I don't know. I don't want to ask. But the thing is, that's exactly it. People don't want to ask. But then when someone says hooking up, we assume. Right. Because of terminology. We kind of assume that it has to do with sex. Yeah. Well, hooking. Yeah. Hooking up. Like connecting kind of in a, you know, like. You know, it's just I think that the use of it is what it is, is what created this illusion that people are having more sex. But in general, they're not. And they're not having, you know, they're not looking even, you know, the only thing that was different from this generation to the other is that people are more open to sex between same sex people. Well, yes. You know, since I've been since I've been born, I mean, you know, the attitude towards gay relationships has totally changed. Oh, of course. And legally. Right. Well, legally, obviously. Yes. They're far more open. Which, you know, I support. Yeah. You know, I think if two people care about each other. What's the difference what they have in there? Yeah, who cares? I mean, you know, it's like it's not my business. True. True. Yeah. I mean, we shouldn't care. And it's none of anybody's business what they do, you know, regardless. But it's like since I've been, you know, I've been alive for 47 years. And I mean, if you had told me when I was like three or four years old that we would that the president of the United States would be this like like brilliant African-American, you know, president. You would not believe it. No, no, no. I wouldn't. No, that cannot be. I know. But. But the things have changed and for the better. Yes. Yes. And I think. Yeah. And so that that is one thing that changed in the hooking up, you know, society, you would say. But I'm just curious, what do you think? Do you think so? So we've kind of concluded that people were not are not having more sex today than they did then. But the number is still an interesting thing because women have the tendency to lie about the number of sex partners and men have the tendency to. Exaggerate. Oh, I've been with millions of women. Yes. I've been with. What do you think is the number? For me? For you? I'd love to know. At least two. One or two. I don't know. I'm not going to. Yeah. No, you don't have to. But what do you think about men and women in general? Well, I guess men. What's the average? You know, you know, I don't know. You're you're the expert. I would say that men. Yeah, you're right. I don't. I don't brag about anything that I do because I'm not proud of anything that I do. But, you know, I don't know. I've been with a couple of girls, you know, over my lifetime. Yeah. And, you know, and I know women who, you know, have been, you know, like, I don't know, women in my who I know, they. I don't know. Yeah, I would say that, like, you know, culturally, we try to like women for some reason. Try to be more demure. They try to be more. Say that they have less experience. Yeah. Which for me is not like a trophy. No. Yeah. No. I would prefer an experienced woman. Yeah. I mean, somebody who's like, yeah, exactly. You said it right. Yeah. You're smart. That's why I like you. You know what Nora Ephron said? What? In my sex fantasy. Nobody ever loves me for my brain. I'm joking. I do like when people like me for my brain ability. But yeah. So what do you think? I'm looking for a number. Men and women. How many? Average. You mean typically? Yeah. Like average. Like, like, like how about Americans? Like version. Version. I would say a man. A western. A man. I know some guys who have been. You know, I've been with how many women? Start counting. Tally. I kind of, I stopped counting after a while. You know, because, you know, at a certain point, you don't like, you're not trying to. You don't keep a black book. No. Okay. No. But some men and some women do, you know, have like lists of things. You know, we see that even in movies. And I know a few people that do that. That have like lists of things. And they have lists of, it's kind of shameful in my, in my opinion. But a lot of people have like ranks of partners that they had or, you know, all sorts of different, you know, systems to that. Well, you know, I think that, you know, the point is if you're with somebody, you have to like, you know, treat them like a, like a person, like a friend. I agree. I agree. But not necessarily everybody does that. Yeah. I think that, you know, and again, I think it's maturity. I think how people relate to sexual relationships in general, you know, it depends on how mature they are or how in conquest of something are they, you know, it's really, it really depends on that. But in general, I think that in Western society, the numbers that were referred to scientifically or what people report in general, when they are trying to be real and not, you know, telling a story to friends or try to brag or try to be a little bit more, you know, a little bit more, you know, a little bit more, you know, a little bit more, you know, a little bit more, you know, a little bit more, you know, a little bit more, you know, a little bit more, you know, a little bit more, you know, a little bit more, you know, a little bit more, you know, a little bit more, you know, a little bit more, you know, a little bit more, you know, a little bit more, you know, a little bit more, you know, a little bit more, you know, a little bit more, you know, a little bit more, you know, a little bit more, you know, a little bit more, you know, a little bit more, you know, a little bit more, you know, a little bit more, you know, a little bit more, you know, a little bit is still that men are having more sex partners. Who are they having sex with? I mean, for God's sake, it should be... With themselves, probably. Yeah, so it's like if they are having more sex with who? But men are claiming to have the average of seven partners per lifetime. Oh, okay. Seven sex partners. You know, a lot of them will claim much more. But seven and women approximately four. Hmm. Well, I... Yeah, you know, partners, I'm talking. Exactly. Because, you know, if I counted the number of times that I... Not a one-night stand. No, no, I'm talking about like, no, a one-self stand. I have that like always. You know, if I didn't get that certain release, I would just like be neurotic, which I am. I am anyway. Right. No, but it's good. Yeah, it generates a good result. But masturbation is bliss. And I agree. I mean, it's very necessary. Honestly, if you don't lose... If you don't use it, you lose it. Yeah, no. And it's true. It's medical. Yeah, it is medical. There are studies that show that men that don't ejaculate more than... It's true. Like less than three times a week. Really? Yeah. I come across medical problems. A lot of them have to do with functional, you know, arteries. Because it has to be, you know, erection is a dilation of the arteries. And, you know, so you really... You have to remember that it's all a circulation. You know, if it goes down or up, it doesn't really matter. So in terms of if you ejaculate and you actually get an erection, it's really relevant for your functioning. But on the same... By the same token, women... Masturbation in women is very important as well. And I have to say, and I'll get to a few studies, that there are many benefits. Some of them are really like the use of an orgasm as a painkiller. And I'm gonna... Oh, yes. Yeah, it's very useful. Yeah, I know. I mean, you know, speaking for myself, like when I get stressed out, you know, it's like, that's like, it's a pain reliever. Right. It's like Tylenol. Acetanol. Or aspirin, Bayer. Right, but it's Bayer. I know. They should kind of bottle it up. Right? Right. But it's true because, and I'm gonna mention a study that I read, but I just want to ask you another term that is very used right now, you know, friends with benefits. How do you feel about that? Do you think a lot of people are friends with benefits or is it just like, again, like hooking up, like a term? Well, I, you know, this one person, no, a buddy of mine told me a story. Yeah. Do tell. That, you know, he told me that, you know, this girl, like, she was like really attractive and all this kind of thing. Yeah. And she said, you know, if you would like to have a booty call. Yes. Yeah. You know, I'd be up for it. Yeah. And so this guy, this guy, this nerdy looking guy with glasses, he like hooked up with her and, you know, but I told you the story before. I wish I had more stories. You have, you have stories, honey. Yeah. No, you do. I wish I had more. You're going to gather more. I promise. No. Maybe. But yeah. So the thing is really friends with benefits. I like this term because the benefits, you know, it's like, what is that? What does that mean? The benefits mean sex, right? Right. Right. That's what they refer to. But, you know, I don't know how many people really, when they, again, like the hooking up term, how many people really kind of, kind of take that benefit part out of their relationship or just assume that it's going to be friends with benefits. Or who benefits more, the males in the relationship or the females in the relationship or is it equal? And there's so many questions when it comes to it. You know, one study said that approximately only 20% of these hooking ups, you know, of friends with alleged benefits turn out to be actual benefits that are sexual. Others are like, I don't know, doing all sorts of things together, you know, different activities together. But they never really reached the point of full on sex. Well, you know, that's what I, you know, I've heard stories that like the younger kids these days, they don't necessarily, they don't even consider like, let's say oral sex, like they don't even- Sex. Yeah. They don't call it sex. Yeah. They think it's like a, I don't know. An activity. Like shaking hands or something. Right, you shake someone's penis. You shake it all about. Exactly. But, so I don't know. I mean, you know, it's a different generation. I mean when I was a kid, I kind of wish that was around when I was a kid. I'd have more to talk to you about. Let's shake hands. No, but true. It is. And yeah, it's true. And I think the terminology has a lot to do with it. Also what we refer to as a sexual activity. Because as you said, and I agree, oral sex in many cultures, you know, sexual sexual activity is just sexual sexual activity. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. in many societies in the western society mainly but in many you know different countries and especially in america is not considered a lot of young people don't consider it sex and also don't really relate to um to dangers or you know things that are related to oral sex as something problematic even though a lot of stds can go through you know via oral sex but they since they don't consider it sex a lot of them don't even you know understand in some cultures uh a woman will not give up her virginity but she will give up her mouth or her anal opening yes yes which to me is like uh disgusting what's the word that was like disgusting yeah i mean that to me has no hymen very precious there's like a there's a certain place where you put your you know your your penis or whatever and then there's like right next to it is another place where you don't know i mean for me anyway you know completely closed the whole section in a porn site called anah anaholics or right this is what they call it yeah i'm not yeah that whole kind of thing anal sex is very popular it's got to be i mean i would think like Like for a woman, it would be painful, like a bad thing. I don't have an exact opinion about it because I think any sex to any person, whatever according to their interest is fine and I don't judge anybody. But yeah, there's a very big audience for anal sex, both males and females. And I agree that it is practiced in many societies that are actually more religious to not penetrate the vagina because of the hymen and it needs to be, you know, virginity is important and all of the above, but you can penetrate someone anally or orally and that would be okay, which is kind of funny, I think. But yeah, it does exist, you know, to each his own. I don't, you know. Right. You don't want to judge, but, you know, it's like in, you know, in the continent of Africa. Right. They have this like widespread. Outbreak of HIV. Yeah. Yeah. And, you know, and it's it's it's like kind of, you know, it's it's it comes from anal sex. Well, there's more probability because there's blood vessels and it's, you know, blood is is a big component in it. But yeah, it's true. And this is why originally and I don't want to go into it, but this is why originally it was presumed to be a gay disease, because. More gay men were infected with it initially just because of anal sex. Because it's more probable to be infected. But it's not it's not, you know, really, I don't want to go into the medical part of it. But yeah. What do you think? I'm and I'm staying on the hooking up thing. Oh, so I'm getting. Yeah. No, no, no. It's good. It's good. What do you think? Do you think women and this is in relation to something you mentioned in relationships and stuff. You. Think women orgasm in a like a one night stand or a booty call or hooking up randomly? Or do women really need a relationship to feel secure and to be able to climax in someone's arms? I think, you know, I don't know. I could be totally wrong. Yeah. It just seems to me that like women are they they they're they want to be in a relationship. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Because like lesbians, let's let's talk about, you know, lesbians. I love lesbians. They they get into relationships like really quick. I mean, I've you know, it's more. Yeah. Because women are more into two women. You know, it's just the nature of the beast. Right. They want to have a connectment like, you know, what connection? I'm sorry. Right. You know what they say? There's a there's like a joke about it. What do what do I hope I'm not going to wreck it because I'm not a comedian. I'm awful. So it's good. Pardon me, everybody. If I'm not. If I wreck it. But what do what do two lesbian women bring for their second date? Are you home? Right. What do gay men bring? I don't know. What second date? One second date? What second date? What second date? Okay. Yeah. So yeah. So but it's I'm joking, everybody, of course. But women have the tendency to immediately jump into and they're more suffocating. So if you bring two females. Into a relationship. Wow. Yeah. It's a double the trouble. So, you know, like both women are so it's a lot. Yeah. I don't know if I brought this up last week. Yeah. You know, I met this. I was talking to a girl at my 30th high school. Right. Right. Right. And you know, and she she was like, straight. She had a kid. And then they divorced. And the kid is like now 17. Right. Or whatever. And she's like, I'm not going to be a gay man. I'm not going to be a gay man. I'm not going to be a gay man. I'm not going to be a gay man. I'm not going to be a gay man. I'm not going to be a gay man. And now and then she went gay and now she's straight again. And you know, you are confused. Well, I wasn't. I was fascinated. You know, you want my analysis of it? Yeah. Okay. No, but I don't want to disturb the story. So keep going. But I mean, I mean, it was nice talking to her. I didn't. How did she explain it? Or did she? Well, I you know, it's like I don't want to get too, you know, if I'm talking to somebody who I haven't spoken to in 10 years, I don't want to, you know, get like too personal. But right. But it was like kind of interesting. Like, oh, it wasn't a relationship with a woman. I liked it. Then I didn't like it. Or she did she explain or not? It seems to me. Well, I mentioned this before. I think that men and women are different in the fact that women can go both ways more than men. Like, I, you know, I'm not I'm totally it's not A or B or four for me. You know, it's like I've never experimented or anything. With gay sex. Yes. You know, it's like straight men didn't. Yeah. Yeah. So, yeah, but I guess gay guys, I guess they're kind of lucky in a way because because they're horny and they don't need commitment. So they can like hook up at some bar at some, you know, somewhere. Yeah. Well, you know, I think the deep down most people, regardless of gender, are interested in some personal connection. I think it depends on maturity and a lot of other factors. But going back to your friend, I just want to say and I've spoken about it in past shows that female sexuality is fluid, meaning that women are geared towards bisexuality, but innate, you know, by nature. And so most women are, in fact, bisexual. Only not all of them pursue it. I mean. So they're more interested, like in the person who they're with their mind, the personality. The more they're attracted to a person rather than a gender. I see. Well, that makes sense. I don't know. Men, I guess, are maybe just more, you know, they're into the. For men, orientation is more important. For women, it's less important. Even though, you know, women can kind of identify themselves as gay, straight, bisexual or whatever they wish to call themselves. But still in naturally and this is why, for instance, in a, you know, in pornography, mainstream pornography, you will always see a gay scene between women, but not between men. Oh, yeah. Right. There's always a scene with two women doing something or threesome that involves two women. Touching each other or, you know, doing other things or full on sex between two women. But you're not if it's mainstream pornography, you're not going to see gay men because that's like a section. Yeah. That's a different niche. Yeah. Yeah. Right. But but female sexuality and women are taught even, you know, society wise, culturally to touch each other or kiss or, you know, be friendly and touchy. And that's acceptable. Yeah. But not for women. Yeah. But not for men. Yeah. But not for women. Yeah. But not for women. Yeah. But not for women. Yeah. But not for women. Yeah. But not for women. Yeah. But not for women. Yeah. But not for women. Yeah. But not for women. Yeah. But not for women. Yeah. But not for women. Yeah. But not for women. Yeah. But not for women. But not for women. Yeah. I saw a couple, like I saw this one, a couple of guys who I hadn't seen in years. And you wanted to hug them. No, I kissed them on the cheek. Oh, that's sweet. And I never do that. Right. You know, and I just, I don't know, I just like it was an impulsive kind of a thing. Right, but this is what it is because impulsively you would be interested in like, you know, the physical aspect of it because it's natural. But society turns it in, you know, in relation to orientation or something and guys maybe, you know, touch each other or click, you know, it's like, but they don't do the kissing and they don't do the hugging. Well, I was hugging everyone I saw that night. I was having so much fun. It sounds like it. That sounds like a really good experience. Yeah, it was. Yeah. We don't, you know, we don't have it where I come from. We don't, we don't care. You don't do that kind of thing? We don't care to see each other. Yeah, fuck you, whatever. It's like we don't have it. But yeah, I'm interested. We're going to have Tim come on the show in a few minutes and have him join us and give his opinion. Tim is an old friend of ours that we had before. Oh, okay. But I want to mention to you something funny. How do you feel about foot fetish? I'm not going to go into it, but just, you know, do you have a thing with feet? I think it's a lot of fun. What do men do? I don't necessarily have a thing with feet. But one time there was a, I was with this girl and I was under the influence of a... Of alcohol. No, not alcohol. Oh, pot. No. Okay. Keep taking... I stopped at this point. Coke. No. What? LSD. Oh my gosh. And for some reason I was like... It's not used anymore, right? Nobody uses LSD. Well, it's not a good thing to do. No. But... That's a whole story which I could like tell for like a whole hour. Okay. We'll get to it. Yes. But... So you were under the influence. I was, yeah. And for some reason I was like, you know, into her feet. You know, I don't know. But I don't... Because of the LSD probably, right? I was crazy. Like more crazy than normal. You know, I was like... So were you experimenting? Did you touch? Did you touch, kiss, caress? What did you do? Oh, yeah. Hell yeah. I mean, we... Did she enjoy it? I hope so. Did you? You know, I would hate to think that I did that and she didn't, you know... I'm like, what is he doing? No. No, she enjoyed it. I think so. Women like it. Yeah. I think women in general like it. But I don't have a foot fetish. No, you don't per se, you don't. Feet are just not good looking to me. Right. So you don't have it because a lot of men do. Yeah. I'm not even... You know, if you're talking about... I'm not even talking about like body parts. I'm not... Yes. I'm not a foot man. What man are you? I'm a... Well, I... You're a boob man. Yes. I kind of knew that. I don't know why. I don't know. I don't know. I detect them. You can kind of tell them out. I can tell. But yeah. So, Tim. Tim, where's Tim? Where's Tim? Tim? I'm here. Hey. Oh, hey, Tim. How are you? Hey. Hey, listen. I was listening. Yeah. It's interesting that you mentioned the plumbing. Foot fetish. Yeah. Because in the 90s, I basically... I did not ejaculate for 10 years. My God. Yes. What? It was tantric. It was... Oh, he was doing tantric sex. Oh. Well, it was called the Tao of Health, Sex, and Longevity. And it teaches you... How to hold it. Yeah. I know. But you can... No, you orgasm. You orgasm, but you don't ejaculate. Right. But how did you... How did you feel about it? Great. I could fuck for hours, literally. I know. I know. It's really impressive. And it... You know, the thing about it was, it wasn't as much about me as it was more of a sharing. About the woman. And plus, you're horned up quite a bit more often. I could masturbate. You practice by masturbating because... Right. Because you hold it. Yeah. You teach yourself to get close and edge and edge and edge. And then stop. Right. Yeah. And then you let it go. But you don't shoot. Right. So, like, ten years, I was a fuck machine. And how did you... Why did you stop it? I didn't... I started dating somebody that really liked to see it. And, you know, so I went with that. Why don't you shoot some on my tits? Did she tell you that? I'm just assuming. She didn't say that, but that's where I shot it. Are you serious? Or on her belly or her face. That was new. Okay. But the thing is, I have something to say about tantric sex. And you tell me. Because I've been with men that practice... Tantric sex. And I'm going to let David ask you what he wanted to in a minute. But I wanted to say this. The men that I came across that practice tantric sex, yes, it was impressive. You can go all night long and blah, blah, blah and whatever. But do women... And I'm asking you, David, as well. Yeah. But do women really... Is this what women are looking for? Do you think that the constant thrusting on and on and on and on and on? Or is it something else? I mean... And this is for both of you guys. I wouldn't generalize. Some women like it longer. You know, it's funny. The woman that I was with at that time, she could only last about an hour. And so... It was wasted on her. Well, it wasn't really about going all night. It was just about being close for a longer period of time than, you know, eight minutes, spurt, and let's go watch TV. Yeah. But you can go again. You can. And that's it. It's not like... It's not like... It's not like... It's not like... It's not like... It's not like... It's not like... It's not like... It's not like... It's not like... It's not like... You can. And that's it. It's not like a marathon. It's not like a competition. Right. Also, you guys brought up a very interesting point about anal. And I know quite a bit about that. Yes, it's... It is a dirty place. But most people don't hop off the toilet and start fucking. You... You... That's an image that I don't... You clean yourself. It's true. Yeah, but there's like... But you know, it's... I'm sorry, Tim, but... Yeah, David. There's a different, like, orifice, like, just like one inch away from... Right. And lovely and... Where the poop comes out of, which you can put your penis into, which... Which is a lovely, fancy, rosy place. Yeah. Inviting. You wash. The asshole on a man or a woman can be cleaner than the pussy because... Both can be clean. It's just a matter of, you know, what you prefer. Preference. Yeah. But didn't you ever rim a woman or eat her ass or... Me? Personally? Yeah, I think he was talking to you. I don't... You know, I was with this girl one time. Wow. And we went together for several months. And I was in love with her. And one time I kind of tried to go near that area. Mm-hmm. And she totally backed off. She said she's not interested. Well, she just clenched. She, you know, it's like... She wasn't interested? Yeah, yeah. Yeah. I was, like, trying to show my love. Your appreciation. Exactly. Yes. You were drunk. Well, perhaps. You were hammered on about a half-pick pack. Maybe. It was probably dark and you accidentally... No, no, no. I totally... No, I think you intentionally wanted to. It was deliberate. It was like an area that... I had never done it. I still haven't done it, so... Yeah. Oh, come on. No, I haven't. Yeah, no, but not necessarily... I haven't done it. I haven't done it. Tim, I do think that some people have, like, an aversive relationship. I don't think it's a reaction when it comes to anal sex or anything that has to do with the anal penetration. Definitely. Because, again, I think that it's either, like, being advertised very harshly as something very extreme, porn-wise, blah, blah, blah. Extreme? Really? Yeah, to some people. Or, on the other hand, it's being advertised as dirty and it's not clean, as blah, blah, blah. Which makes it even hotter. Right, to you. But to some people that are, you know, not... It's taboo. Yeah. Some people are like, fuck that ass because this is nasty. And then others are like, man, that hits the spot. Right. And a lot of women like it, too. Hmm. Yeah. A lot of women prefer anal sex. Oh, really? Yeah. It depends on a lot of things, too. It's like... Yeah. It can be painful, but that's why... Pain and pleasure. Butt plugs or vibrators or your tongue. You practice in advance. Yes. I agree. You don't just jam it... No. You don't jam it. I love the terminology. This guy, Tim, is very explicit. I know. He's very explicit. Tim. Plenty of people like you to just ram it in there because they do like a little edge or a little pain. Yes. That's for sure. Yes. There's no way to generalize anal sex. No. It's interesting because I would classify myself as bi. I've mostly been with women, but I... Well, you find men attractive. I find men attractive, too. I don't necessarily. Not me, I hope. Don't look at me. Yeah, go ahead, Tim. When I'm out on the streets, I've never really looked at men. Okay. So how do you know that you're bi? I've done it. I've done everything. Okay. You've been with me. You've done everything. Yeah. Well, pretty much. So I'm with this guy a couple years ago. Yeah. And he reached... I'd never really kissed the guy. He just did it. That was your first time? And you liked it. Well, he was a really good kisser. And then we started to develop more of a... It was kind of a booty call thing because he lived with somebody and I was with somebody. Anyway. Yeah. So this guy starts fucking me. And he's big. He was like nine inches and pretty thick. Oh, that's painful. Well... That is painful, no? It depends. It depends. For me, it depends. It depends on the position. If you're... But it sounds because of the immense size. Yeah, right. The length. It was the length. It was bottom out. Yeah. And so that's where I ran into some difficulty. But if you took it slow and there was like kissing and missionary position. Right. Holy fuck was it hot. Oh, man. All right. It was because the guy was an amazing kisser. Zayn Ghazan. I know. We're talking some Yiddish. But... No, I fully agree. I mean, that appeals to a lot of men and women. I mean, anal sex could be a very hot stimulating activity for a lot of people. And, you know, the double penetration is a big genre in... DP. DP. In the business. In the biz. It's a very big thing. Yeah. And women, you know, just the feeling, the sensation of being sandwiched between two men. It's kind of like a fantasy of a lot of women. Seriously. That's called turkey basting, where you're taking it in the mouth and you're taking it in either the puss or the... Well, I'm talking about just the sandwich, you know, just the DP. But it could be, you know, it could be either way. But the thing is, yeah, I don't know how we even got to that. Tim, he's weird, man. Tim, no offense, but... You mentioned straight. Yeah. You mentioned that straights really don't think about men. Well, if you look around, you go on Craigslist, do you know how many married men are on there? Well, married men doesn't signify anything. I mean, it doesn't mean that you're straight if you're married. If the only way to really qualify straight is like you never even... Because a lot of so-called straight men have relationships with men. Of course. Yeah, but I'm not, you know, I'm, look, I don't judge anyone. You know, if you're into what you're into, it's just, you know, for me personally, I just like women. And I... We are the first sex, as I said. I like women with big... With big breasts. I'm just here to clarify things and be explicit as possible. And beautiful faces, too, and nice minds. You know, that's so funny because I like a fuller-figured woman as well. And my best friend, he hated that. He was like... Oh, I know. Oh, I know. He was like... Oh, I know. I like small tits. Yeah. He was like an A-cup or a B-cup. Some men think that anything more than a handful is a waste. I've heard that, too. But you guys, the reason I even mentioned, you know, the foot fetish, which we didn't touch, and I'm kind of upset. But, no, but yeah, the foot fetish, the reason I mentioned it is... I don't want to talk about foot fetish today, but the reason I mentioned it was because I read a story about a woman that had... Had a... Had a... In a nutshell, she had an accident and she had a neurological default, some problem, you know, and the brain was receiving signals. It stopped receiving signals from her foot. You know, she was half, you know, partially paralyzed in her left foot for a while. And so it didn't get signals from there. And once the foot healed, the brain... I'm just going to simplify it because I don't want to get into the whole terminology. But the brain kind of confused signals from the vagina with signals from the foot. And so every, like, every 15 to... 15 minutes to an hour, she would get an orgasm from her foot. Really? Yeah. Wow. That's good. And she would, like, climax all fucking day long from her foot. Like, every time she would touch her foot, she would have a climax. How do you get that operation? I want... I want... I want... Right? I want... I want some rewiring done. I want ASAP. I want... I don't know. It wouldn't be as good for a man because it would be so messy. I know. Every time I have to go change, you know. Unless you practice tantric. After a while, it would be smaller and smaller loads. So it would... Right. Or it's going to be tantric. And then you don't have to ejaculate. Well, Tim, I don't know how old you are. I'm an older man. Older man. I'm good for maybe... I'm good for maybe one or two times a day at the most. Yeah, like max. And you're like, oh, woman, you're draining me. But, Tim, I... I mean, God bless you if you, you know, and I don't believe in God, by the way. If you're able to do more. But how do you feel? Is this... Yeah. I had a slave who had a foot fetish. You had a slave that what? Had a foot... He was a foot worshiper. Okay. So he was into foot fetish. It was the shit because that guy was... If you like your feet being worked on nonstop, whether it's massage, whether it's being sucked on... Did you enjoy it? Yeah. Yeah? Yeah, because you... Who better to have work on your feet than a guy that worships feet? And some of the things he was into were a little bit off. A little bit off? Okay. It was different. Like, he liked to be walked on and he liked to be stomped. Okay, well, he was a slave. By definition. Well, the only thing... Sorry. Yeah. Let's let... Let David... Speak for a second. Well, I have to tell a joke. I mean, the only thing you have to work on is, you know, you have to be careful about athletes' tongue. Yes. When you're into, like, you know, this kind of, like, footolingus kind of thing, you have to be a little careful. It's true. It is. It is a cute joke. It is true. I should have expected it. Yeah. But what do you guys think? I mean, and this woman, I have to say, the woman I mentioned in regards to the foot climax, that she kept climaxing. She was miserable. Oh, really? The woman went and seeked help because she said it was troubling her and it was messing up her life and she was a 55-year-old woman. Huh. And she said she kept, you know, it was keeping her up at night and she would go to the supermarket and she would have a climax at the register and stuff like that. I think it's ideal. I would think so. I would think so. You do. You could think so. But, like, if you ever knew anything... If you ever knew anything about sex addiction, you would think, who would want to be addicted to sex? But then... Yeah, I don't believe in sex addiction. I don't like that term as a professional. Huh. Well, okay, I can appreciate that. Yeah. But for those people that are supposedly like that, you would think... It's different, though. Who would want to have as much sex with as many people? Maybe it's different, but with that... It is very different, yeah. Because the addiction, the addictive part of it is sort of, you know, kind of dragging you through the mud in places that you don't want to be in. You practice things that you don't want to practice just because you're kind of pushed into pushing the limits. But when it comes to climax, it's a natural, you know, exhilarating sensation, right? I mean, this is how I see a climax. So if I get across a climax 15 times a day, I'm like on cloud nine. I think you'd have to look at her. Was she louder? You know, it's like, it could be great, but it can be exhausting. It can be... Yeah, no, I fully... I was joking. Of course. But I mean, don't women, they're capable of having like 15 or... Women are inexhaustible and they can have... They can have multiple orgasms. Right, right. Dudes have like, you know, they... If they don't practice tantric sex, as Tim said. Yeah, you know, Tim, you know, I don't understand like why you didn't want to like finish. I did. I had orgasms. Yeah, but not ejaculation. I have, I have, I'm a little, a little partial about it. I'm not really... I'm not really into, I think tantric sex. And I know that in Eastern beliefs, it really drains, you know, for men especially, it really drains the body. And they claim that, you know, it draws a lot of energy out of you. And they, this is why they prefer not to ejaculate. But I kind of have a preference that I think that an orgasm, and this is from sources that I, you know, from men that I've been with that were tantric and to some degree were not. At one point... Of their lives. And I asked around and I think that it kind of, kind of removes a big portion of enjoyment. I mean, I do think that there's a factor of release when it comes to ejaculation. Oh, yeah. I mean, for me. More than, right. You don't, coming from experience. Mm-hmm. Tell me. It doesn't really feel any different. As a matter of fact... Really? Your orgasm is bigger. And the fact that you go longer. Mm-hmm. For me, it's the journey. When you're making love. I don't want to just, I don't want to, like, a fuck-a-thon. A fuck-a-thon. That I'm pounding away, you know, for like 10 minutes. And then I'm, I like to be in my partner, with my woman, in my woman. Kissing her and whatever. Slapping her ass, et cetera. Slapping her tits around. You know, the whole bit. Slapping her tits. I like it. Yes. I like it to last. And so that's the nice part. Not necessarily all the time. You know, sometimes you're in a rush, so. Right. So you mentioned sex-a-thon. And I want to, I want to just stop on that note and say, and how do you feel, David? Yes. Do you think it's like, you think, and I mentioned before, you asked me if I, if I work out. And I said no, I don't. Yeah. I don't, I never work out. You're very fit. You look fit. Thank you. Not even kegels? No, no, no. I'm talking working out in general. She's very thin and, you know. Yeah. But I don't, you know, I have, I can thank my mom for good genes, I think. Yeah. But in general, I don't work out. And I never had membership to a gym. But I do like having sex. So they went and checked, you know, and, and they claim, you know, it's not like a jog, but having like half an hour of good sex. And I'm talking like, you know, instrumental and, and vibrant and, you know, good sex. Not like laying around counting, you know, clouds. But really like being a participant and, you know, taking part and being active can really burn a bunch of calories. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And, you know, it was like approximately like four calories per minute for men and three for women, which comes to something, you know, not bad. Sure. And so how do you feel? Much for a woman. The woman is just laying there on her back. Oh, yeah, of course. Doing her nails. Yeah, of course. We're just, you know, counting what we need to get in the grocery store. Or thinking about what soap opera is going to be on. I know, of course. Or how the gardener is going to fuck, and we're going to fuck the gardener later or something like that. Right. Right. Right. At most, you might have to. Or hold her legs up for a few minutes. I know. That's exhausting. Please. It's the man that's doing it all. We've got to hold ourselves up. Of course. Of course. Tim, can I ask you, you know, a personal question? I mean, you're, I don't know if you are, are you like currently in a relationship with somebody? Yes, actually. Okay. A woman. Okay. So you don't need to self-satisfy yourself? Of course I don't need. It's not about me. You don't need to, but you want to. It's about want. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. Well, you don't have that need. Okay. I was just curious. Yeah. Because. Well, I mean, I would think you would get the same amount of calories produced. From masturbation? Yes. No, but actually, no, it is. I'm not doing anything for calorie burning. Right. No, but some people. Well, yeah, you're doing it for fun. Right. But it can be counted as a part of your regimen, of your exercise. I mean, according to these studies, they did say that it does, you know, unlike, as I said, unlike a jog. But a little more than a walk, which is like a power walk for a woman. It's a lot. And I'm a very big supporter of it. Because as you, you know, as I mentioned, I don't really work out, but I do like having sex. And you, you are in a relationship. I am in a relationship. You told me that. Yes. Before the show. Yeah. And it's like, I don't really, you know, but I find that in general, if you have sex and in whether you have sex with someone, of course, it's more active when you have sex with someone. Right. But yeah, the orgasm is something that oozes a lot of calories out of you as well. But the actual activity of being, you know, taking part in it and moving around and changing positions or, you know, whatever, is also contributing to the exercise part of it. So let's not forget that. And I do. And on that note, I want to challenge everybody to leave the gym and go home and fuck. Or open a gym and make that a part of the routine. Yeah. I know. Dr. Lamore, you've got to hook me up. Do you have a sister? An X-rated gym. I was going to say. Yeah. Masturbating. Masturbating. It's not about my partner taking care of me. It's about, I, sometimes, there are times when masturbating is just kind of better because I'm better at playing with myself. Yeah. I'm better at stroking myself. I think we all are. I think we all are. Yeah. Enjoying it. Enjoying that more because we know what we like. Exactly. And I'm just, I, you guys, I really, I hate to cut it, but we're out of time. So, yeah, of course, we're going to do this again. Nice talking to you, Tim. Yeah. Thank you so much for joining us. Yeah, you too. We're going to have you next time. And thank you so much. And David, it was such a pleasure. Thank you, honey. Oh, I, are we off the air now? No. Oh. No, we're still on. Well, I think that, yeah, that was nice. It was a pleasure. I like talking to you. Thank you so much. Yeah. Yeah, it was nice. I like being here. And whenever you want, you know, of course. I'll have you definitely next time, next week again. Excellent. And everybody, please join us. And thank you so much for listening. I'm Dr. Limor Blockman, and I'll see you next time. Bye. Bye. Bye. Bye. Bye.