Dr. Lamar Blockman on sex therapy and fetishes

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Just like that. That's some cold, dope, straight shit. Just like that. Damn, what? Just like that. You thought of that all by yourself. You rehearsed that about a few minutes before. Just like that. Just like that. Damn. You got some words in your head. And tonight, we're going to welcome the beautiful Dr. Lamar Blockman. Hi. Hi, everybody. I mean, I can't. I really can't follow any of these things. I can fix erectile dysfunction. You can fix erectile dysfunction, but you can't rap. Yo, yo, yo. I just saved my life. Yo, yo. Your penis is flop, flip, flop, flippity. Don't stop, rock the dip, dip, dibity. Just call 1-800-BLOCKMAN to get it straight. Yo, when it's dangling, you pick up your phone and ring-a-ling-a-ling. Call Dr. D-Moore and get it back on track again. Yo, we just up in the studio rapping and we all was happening. You don't stop. Cause I'm coming out. Yo, you don't stop. Rock the house. Anyway, you don't have to. It's all good. Well, welcome. I mean. Thank you. Thank you. It's such a pleasure. Yes. Introduce yourself. So you have a show here on Skid Row Studios. I do. I have a show here. It's called Sex and Dippity. Sex and Dippity. And I, you know, I'm a sex therapist. So what I do on the show is try to bring the more, you know, kind of scientific side of my occupation. And of course, we try to make it fun and dirty and filthy. And disgusting as we can. Disgusting? We try to. We try. Those words, dirty and disgusting to sex. Those are like kind of. But like in a good way. In a good way. Yeah. Do me a favor. Hit that like. Yeah, yeah, yeah. She tries to make. It's really very glaring. Yeah, yeah. We didn't shut the light off. This is not a good lighting thing. Right now. Right now. I look so much better right now. I look so much better. I feel, yeah. It's already so sultry. She's trying to make it disgusting. Beat the fuck up for hairy, dirty, and disgusting, man. See. We try hard not to try to be disgusting. No, we want you to be. Because it always gets that way. No. Honestly, it's not true. Women do want men to be disgusting. That's one of my questions. That's one of my questions. But we're not going to go yet right to the juggler. What do women want? We're not going to go to that. You're going to do some foreplay. Well, I want to know about you. I want to know where you come from. Where were you born? How'd you get into sex therapy? You know, the whole nine yards. I want to know about you. So, where do you want me to start? You can start wherever you are. Where were you born? I'm Israeli. Originally from Israel. Born and raised. Mayful. Mayful. Haifa, originally. Okay. So, of the army. Were you in the Israeli army? I was. You were? You fucking Israeli women in the army. Holy shit. They're gorgeous. Every one of them. You ever see that? You remember that? Yeah, that's why Nestor always says, help me, help me, lays by on the side of the railroad tracks. Nestor, you got to stop doing that. Dude, dude. Do you remember that earlier in one of our episodes, there was that photo of those three women and they were like- There was a scandal. There was a scandal? There was a scandal of those Israeli women. They were topless. They were topless. And I'm like, Jesus Christ, these women are- Oh, we did it all the time. I'm sure. But I'm saying, I mean, and no wonder guys joined the army. We did a topless photo online. We didn't get much of a response. I know, I know. Ours didn't get much. Okay, so- We don't usually do that. So, you were in the Israeli army? Interesting. I didn't know that. I was going to ask you that. Yes, it's two years. Honestly, you know, as them, I don't know if it's like a Jap. It's not really like an American princess, but I was kind of a very, you know, kind of ballet, did the whole thing. And then you have to join the army. It's mandatory. And it's like, you don't like it. You have to eat dirt and you have to shoot a rifle and it's run around and sweat. And I don't do uniform so well. Right. So, I don't like uniform. Right. So, you cut off the sleeves. You put a sash around it. Yeah. Yeah. And it's not allowed. Some pins, some brochures. You can't do any of that. No, you can't do any of that. Okay. All right. Yeah. So- So- So, Israeli army was too conforming for you? Too restrictive? It was. And honestly, I always get that question about how did I end up doing sex therapy? Yeah. So, the main, I'm going to cut it short because when I, my bachelor degree is in psychology, behavioral science. Yes. So, you know, every psychology student, one-on-one, you know, first class, you're convinced you're going to be the next Freud and then you fall asleep. Right. And it's boring shit. Yes. And you're like, oh, I can't do this. It's interesting, but boring sometimes. Yeah. The one-on-one. The one-on-one, they usually, the basic- Basic shit. Classes are really- Start talking about how the eyeballs work. And it's really kind of boring. This is your ear. Right. When you start researching Dahmer and those guys- That's when it gets fun. Then it gets juicy. Right. But still, I kind of decided that I wasn't going to be just a clinical psychologist and it was kind of boring to me and I was looking for a different avenue. Mm-hmm. And so, I met a, to cut a long story short, I just met a sex therapist at a party that I attended. And it just hit me. I said, this is what I want. This is what I want to do. And all the way there. Was it a male or a female sex therapist? It was a male. It was a guy. And you guys were just talking, hey, how you doing? What do you do? We were talking. A lot of sex therapists. And of course, yeah. And he told me about what he does and it sounded much more interesting, obviously. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Also, I have to say that I do, I came across that sensation that I do have a problem with grief and things that are too deep and kind of- Grief. Yeah. Okay. I don't relate very well to it. Right. Others and myself as well. And so, you know, an erectile dysfunction could be sad, not as sad. Right. Right. Nobody really cries on my cell phone. Well, people grieve when they can't get an erection. Right. And that's to that extent. Yeah. No, but that's very interesting to note. Yeah. That you don't deal with grief very well. I don't. Did you know that all the way or did you find that out through your own therapy? I found that through therapy and through, you know, death in the family and stuff like that. Right. And I really knew, I really kind of sensed that I couldn't deal with it well. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. And I've always had, you know, profound interest in sex, so. Right. Profound interest in sex. Like- Meaning. Like, curious about it. Well, I was an experimental teenager. Got it. Very. Got it. Intense. Got it. Okay. Yeah. So, you loved, you enjoyed and you loved sex, so you were interested in furthering- Well, obviously, yeah, I do think that if you choose something that, even subconsciously, you choose something that you want to deal with as an occupation, as a job, that you find intriguing. Otherwise, it's really very sad living, in my opinion. Yeah, well. Especially that I spent 10 years. Yeah. Studying, so. It'd be something that I found interesting. If you love what you do, then you never work a day in your life. Right. Isn't that the quote? Something like that? Yeah. True. So, okay. So, how do you go from grief to sex therapy? So, you said you met a guy who was a sex therapist at a party. Right. And then you found out that you didn't do too well with grief. Right. So, how do you go from that to grief to that? I found that I didn't want to do something that can get me to deal with these kind of issues. Mm-hmm. And clinical psychology, in general, could get you there, obviously. Uh-huh. And so, I was looking for something that is very specific and also that I found very interesting. And sex therapy seemed interesting. Got it. And so, I just, you know, I went through the whole system of getting my master's and then my PhD is in human sexuality. Mm-hmm. And this was in Israel or in the States? Well, my bachelor and my master's were both in Israel and the PhD is from San Francisco and... Of course. Yeah. Yeah. That's the main place to be. The liberated city of sexual... Definitely. I have to note... Perversions. Yes. Perversions is very true because I have to note that I was the party pooper, me. Right. Someone that is always seen as provocative and too intense. I was the one that, oh, I don't want to go to the power exchange and have, like, fire. Put on my ass. Yeah. And, like, people beating up on me. I don't feel like doing it. I was, like, ruining it for everybody. And I was the one that wouldn't take my clothes off for some... Right. ...sar experiments. Yeah. And there was one of these courses that sexologists made to do. Okay. So you have to do those courses. You have to. As a sex therapist. It's mandatory. Take off your clothes for what? Well, it was sensual massage. You have to kind of exhibit that you're comfortable with that. Mm-hmm. And there was just the emergence of camera phones. Okay. And I said, no fucking way. I'm not taking my clothes off. They're camera phones. Because then people are going to... Yeah. And so, no. And I didn't... Then I was punished for it. I had to write a whole... Essay. Yeah. Yeah. On masturbation. Well, on the fact that I was... Yeah. I was being a bad student. You know, you had to... They were... I had to cover up for that part that I didn't take. So you didn't subject yourself to that part of... No, I never did. ...the normal process. Right. And I found that experiment very educational because I found a lot about myself doing that. That I wasn't... You know, I always thought that I was much more out there than I really was. Right. And you found out that there were way many more people... Oh. ...out there. Yes. And there are. Well, all my friends, yeah. All my friends were different kind of, you know, aspects of extreme sexuality. My best friend there was an FTM. I don't know for your listeners that don't know that. It's a female to male transgender. Meaning that she was getting a penis. Yes. And that's much more extreme than the norm. Simon. Simon's going through that. He's in his preliminary psychological... Right now my penis is in a drawer. I'm keeping it. I'm watering it at night. It's growing. It's... Yeah. I'm watering it at night. I take it for a walk. He's growing it on his thigh right now. The thing is, you have to go through psychological evaluation for a while before you can actually get your first treatments because... Right. Because they want to make sure... For a while they were doing it at the Rite Aid and it just got out of hand. Oh my God. I was trying to tell you. He got in the wrong line. He went... They were doing it at the Target right around the back by the cafeteria. Simon is actually a woman. I mean, but he's been taking hormone therapy. Of course. Yes. So, so. Look at the... Yeah. That's very... Yeah. And his deep voice. So, yeah. It's working out. Right? I think so. I think so. It's working well for you. Yeah. It's working really well. I've been having some nice dates. I know. It's been really lovely. There's still time. You can turn back. Yeah. You can still do that. You can still turn back. You know, that's a very interesting subject. Yeah. No, it is. It is. In all seriousness. No, I agree. I agree. And that's one of the show topics that I have for a future date. Yeah. It's just a very interesting... It's a very interesting thing because a lot of people... First of all, there's homosexuality, right? Yes. Then there's bisexuality, right? Most guys are like, come on, bisexual fucking picotine. Greedy motherfuckers. You know what I mean? Yes. Make it happen. You want to fuck everybody. Yeah. Well, the thing is, I have to agree, but... And this is... Yeah. There's a separation to the rule. And the thing is this. Women are innately, naturally bisexual. Okay. All women are. Okay. How do we know this? We know this because biologically, female sexuality is fluid. Meaning that women are prone to be attracted to both sexes. Now, whether they are practicing that or not, that's a different story. You think some of them repress that at a certain age and they go, no, no. Definitely. No, no, no. Most women don't act on it. When you say attracted, like a woman would come up to another woman and say, your hair is so beautiful. But I would never go to Nestor and be like, dude, I like your ass in those jeans. No, no, no. I'm not even talking about verbally. I'm talking about... Visual companionship. I'll give you... Being stimulated by... Another woman. And the mere fact that you have in any porn, you have a female to female act. Yeah. Because it's so common because it attracts and it talks. It is relevant for both males and females because females do find it attractive. Well, it's a male fantasy. Yes, it's a male fantasy, but it's a female fantasy as well. It's a natural state for a woman. Right. But women mostly are very confused by it. Mm-hmm. The fact that they're fluid. I'm not. I'm totally not confused. I'm like... Yes, of course. And just send me... I'm like... I'm like... I'm like... I'm like, that seems very natural to me. But all through growing up, though, I mean, you know, before, you know, behaviors learned and all that, you know, the little kids on the playground, the girls are always holding hands. You know, the girls always... They show holding hands and even touching each other. Right. Because it's very... It's natural. Right. For women, it is natural. Only society suppresses it. Right. And we come across a lot of... But couldn't you argue it's natural for guys? No. Why? It isn't. Because biologically, it's not. You know, women... Just by nature, female sexuality is fluid. Male sexuality isn't. And so when you say... Female sexuality is what? Is fluid. Fluid. Yes. Okay. And there are many essays and books about... What do you mean by that? What do you mean by it's fluid? Fluid meaning that you can go each way and you don't have a specific orientation. Got it. Okay. You don't really have to be geared towards... Got it. Got it. Fluid. Traffic ahead both directions. You know, let me tell you something. Let me tell you something. Some of my listeners are still fucking collecting WIC checks, okay? They're still on the food stamp line. They have not fucking passed their first level of hooked on phonics. And I like to break the shit down as much as I can. No, it's true. Because it is confusing. I mean, I'm saying it because... No, no, no. This is all informative. You can't assume everybody knows everything. No, no, no. And most people would not know this. You, because you're a transgendered woman and a man, you're fluid. So you know what's going on. You're familiar with that. You know what I mean? Yeah, you because you spell A-D. Hey, let me ask you. You go on the balls too? Or just the... No, no, no. No, he's keeping them. Oh, okay. Yeah. Yeah. Anyway, look. I want a nice pair to slap on your forehead next time you fall asleep. That's why I had you grow them. I paid for this shit. That's why you're fluid. Yeah, it's gradual. Yes. So, so... Yeah, here. So... That's a very high expectation I have to say. So what I get... So what I get... Oh, yeah. What I get from what you're saying also, the other aspect of it is that women are more... From where I'm... From how I look at it, women are more emotional... More sensual and more emotional. Right. Women are the first sex. Yes. Well, that's... I mean, that's more of a scientific perspective, right? Right. I'm just going from like looking at the window, you know, being around women, you know, having... You know, whatever. Just... You see, men are not emotional guys. Right. And we're not very... That's also a social cultural matter. Yes, yes. But we're not very sensual either. We're not like... Well, women are much more... The female, you know, is innately, again, very sensual, very interested. But you can... That's very specific. But in general, the whole idea, and I really like to mention it everywhere I go because I want to kind of put aside that whole confusion that women feel when they find other women attractive. It's not something that is wrong about you. It's not something that, oh, am I a lesbian? I don't like these titles. You mean guys. Guys think there's something wrong with them if they're a girl. No, no. She's saying women... No, the woman herself. Women shouldn't feel bad about it because she's saying it's normal. But guys... So continue. So, but with guys, because Nesta was saying, that's selfish, and that's how we started. So you're saying women, it's natural, but guys, it's selfish. Let me ask you. No, for men, it's not selfish. What is selfish? Being bisexual. It's not. No, I'm not saying. I didn't say it was selfish. I didn't say selfish at all. He said selfish. I said... I was kidding, but let me ask you. Yeah. 2,000 years ago, 1,000 years ago, cultures were different. Were men more... They still are in different places. But were men... You're talking about Western society. Yeah, okay. So, but are men more affectionate? Towards one another in other cultures or 1,000 years ago? Yes, they were. In Ethiopia, yes. Not in anywhere we know. Well, it's Western society is problematic when it comes to sexuality and the exhibit of it. But even Eastern. You don't see Greek, Romans, they were sleeping with each other. That is very true, what he's saying. But you don't see them doing that now, and you don't see Asians doing that, any Eastern civilizations doing that. Eastern, it's a little different. I'm not sure about any Hindu civilization. Right. Oh, that's completely... That's completely frowned upon. Well, it's a question. Nowadays. Not necessarily, not necessarily even then. But the thing is, if you take the Roman and the Greek Empire, for instance, homosexuality was not related to as an aspect of orientation. It was just a matter of what I find attractive. And boys, specifically, were used as a tool of sensuality. Women were just prone to have kids, to bear kids. They weren't looked at as a sexual being. Hookers wore prostitutes. But not women. The respectful women, respectable women were not looked at. So boys were used for that matter. What boys? Boys were like the go-between. Right. Before you could afford a hooker, and you have to be with your respectable wife, you get a little boy. So back to biologically. Yeah. What's the answer? Why are men biologically not, but women are? It would seem to be, especially after what you said about Greece and Rome, that the same thing, it's the same. Well... Well... They don't feel weird about it, but both are... No, they didn't feel even weird about it. That was very acceptable. It was not frowned upon. No, no, no. I'm saying, you said you like to mention bisexual women so that they don't feel weird about it. Because women are bisexual. Women are innately, in general, as a sex, bisexual. Men... I'm not saying that bisexuality doesn't exist, but I am saying that for men, male sexuality is very different from female sexuality. We can go on and on about that. But in specific, males that are bisexual, have a tendency to be attracted mostly to men and also maybe to women. Right, right. But it's not... They're more prone to homosexuality. They're more prone to men. Their first love. Bisexual, right. Whereas women, they're more prone to the men, but every once in a while at college, during Greek week, they're doing a kissing selfie at a party. We went into this whole... to, like, left field. The only reason I even mentioned bisexuality is because it was just a... just one other thing. Right. But transgendered or transsexuality... Right. Very interesting. That's another... Oh, it's extreme. That's another world. That's what I was trying to get at. Yeah. So, all I was saying is that... And then we'll move on because I have a bunch of other questions related to other stuff. Definitely, definitely. Is that, you know... So, all that other stuff, people don't know... Were you born being gay, bisexual, blah, blah, blah. But then you go into the transgendered stuff where, you know, someone is born... a woman, let's say, in a man's body. Gender dyslexia. Gender dysphoria. You know what I mean? Yeah. And then they're miserable. You see them. Extremely. You see them. Extremely. A perfect example, perfect example and a celebrity example would be Chaz Bono. Right. Now, if you've seen the documentary... And I've met her... Him, I should say. Him. I've met him a couple of times. I met him before... Yeah, before the transition. When he was doing hormone therapy. Right. And then after. Right? And night and day. It's almost as if somebody's home but the lights aren't on. Yeah, it's very sad. It's so frustrating. And then after, after, boom, the light's on and they become who they're supposed to be. Absolutely. Absolutely. You know, that's an amazing thing. It is. And what I was going to get to was that's a topic that I want to discuss on the show. Yes. Because now, with that whole realm of, you know, a lot more people understanding that psychology... Or learn to know, yeah. Right? Then there's this other aspect of, which has happened here in California... Yes. Where in elementary schools, if you're a transgendered or if you feel like you're a woman inside of a boy's body... Right. You can use a woman's bathroom. And that's a law. Oh, really? Oh, yeah, yeah, it's a law. They started a law? When did it pass? I think it passed maybe, I don't know, six months ago or something like that. Really? So it's a new thing. That's terrific. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So it's to give... Well, it's controversial because then, you know, that lends itself to the thought of, okay, so now any little boy... Maybe we're pushing them to it. Well, what I'm saying, maybe we're pushing them to it, right? How do you know it? You're five years old, you were born... Well, they do know. I got it, I got it. But I'm saying, I'm playing the devil's advocate. Yeah, and of course, and you're right. And most very, you know, people that are not open-minded. Well, I'm open-minded and I still have questions about it. Of course. You know, Puerto Rican kids, especially young boys, they're like, yes, yeah, papo, all I gotta do is say that I look, that I feel like a woman and I can go inside of a little girl's bathroom? Hey, yo, sometimes maybe I feel like a woman, I don't know what it is. Go. So you mean, hold on a second, Pancho, hold on a second, Pancho, you mean to tell me in Fizz Gray, you and me can say that we have gender dysfunctionality and we can go into a young woman's bathroom and we can watch? That sounds good, bro. Oh, that's it. That's it. That's what the fuck that is. That is great. So anyway, those are my questions. Yeah. You know, that's where I come from. Yeah. Anyway, let's move on. So I wanted to talk about women's identity. Yeah. And their sexuality as their identity. Yes. Right? So in Western civilization especially. Yeah. In America. Yeah. Women are so obsessed and maybe I'm using the word obsessed a little too strong. No. But breasts, right? Augmentation of breasts. She knew we were going to get to this topic. No, no, no, because it's something that it, this is, there's something that happens where I see, you said women are naturally more attracted to other women. to other women. I've seen women. I've been, women friends of mine, they go, wow, she's got big tits. I like them. Because women pay attention to these things. But so do men. So do men. So it's not just women. but you don't expect it. No, men, it's expected from men. But you don't expect it from women. Right. A woman, it's either she's going to be catty about it or she's going to be attracted to it and want to play with it. So you're saying a woman might be intimidated by it. Oh, by all means. Okay, so that's perfect because that's another, that's one of the questions that I had. Yeah. So does a woman's breasts, right, does that give them... Anything that is sexual. But does it give them more power over women and men? I don't know. I mean, as a woman, right? You know, I assume it depends. I think it depends on your self-esteem more than the size of your breasts. Yeah, it's how you... It's not the gun in the holster. It's how you can swing it. Or there are men that have a huge dick. But we can't see men's dicks. It doesn't... Oh, first of all... No, no, hold on a second. If I could see, if everybody, if all the men could walk around... Not even that. No, no, hold on. Without their pants, a lot of people would be humbled, okay? They'd be like, oh, shit. Oh, Karen. Simon, I'm sorry, bro. Well, it would kind of lay... It would kind of even the playing field. If there was... Even if you didn't have to take your pants off, but if there was some kind of a... But I do have to say... Exactly. If it was based on your size of your nose or your... Oh, you have big earlobes, you have a big dick and if it was that precise... But I do want to say that if men that are endowed and got the gratification from women that would find them, oh, what a big dick you have and then he'll be full of confidence, that doesn't necessarily happen. Right. So what I'm getting at is that the size of your organs doesn't really, you know, that's not necessarily give you self-esteem. Yes, women that find themselves attractive and powerful... Their swagger. Their charisma, their ability to swing. I didn't say self-esteem. Self-esteem comes from working on yourself and building yourself up. But even very beautiful, attractive women... No, no, no, no, no. Your ability to... No, no, no, no. I'm talking about... I'm talking about women... Right. From what I see, women do more to make themselves bigger. This has not been something that was in the past. In the 70s, you didn't see this shit. When I was growing up, I did not see, you know, women with... Each period has its own... It really is and I go back if I talk about the Greek and Roman Empire on my show, I say that then all these big things, you know, even a big penis or big breasts were considered animalistic and gross. Right. Nobody wanted them. Right. What was acceptable was a small boy's penis as we spoke before and small perky breasts. Right. Nothing more than that was acceptable. So when did... It's a periodic. So when did... So, okay, that's perfect. It's society, again. But when did that... What happened in society? When did in society do women... I think they changed their mind. It was right around when McDonald's did the supersize. Hold on. Did women collectively like say, you know, wow, those are nice. Maybe I should get some. I think it comes from a few things, especially the media, exposure to porn, other factors. Yes, because even if you watch European porn, most women don't have big tits. Right. Okay, so it's a matter of society. Which also could be Americans, bigger is better. Big trucks, big homes, big cars. Big tits. But also... It's capitalism. Big belt buckle. You gave me a question about does America's suppressed sexual suppression create a bigger need and a bigger thirst for those things that... For everything more extreme, maybe. You know, it's very general to say. Sure, sure. But yes. Sure. I'm guessing. The reason I'm asking is because just to go back to the original question idea, right, which is, so women's identity and women's sexuality, right? Right. So at first glance, when I see an American woman, I've noticed that there's a big... And it's not just breasts. I'm talking about, you know, augmenting lips, making themselves look younger, all this other stuff. Well, it's, yeah, as I said, you know, the media in Hollywood, specifically, we live in LA, which is not typical. We tend to forget that this is not real world. Yes, but New York, New York is also representative of Cosmo. Yes, this is not, we're not talking, I don't know, We tend to forget about the 90% of society. Yes, most of America. Ayow, ayow. Oklahoma, the bitches be wearing big fat motherfucking tees, you know what I'm saying? They're born with big flap, flip flap, you don't stop, you know what I mean? I don't know, though. Let me say this, though. Let me say this, though. I think maybe when women focus just on their breasts, say they got their breasts early on, and that gets pointed out to them, then that becomes kind of their identity, and then they... Some people are self-conscious. Some women are. They are self-conscious about it. They get breast... I mean, I know... It just depends on how they process it, but if women realize that they can get everything that they want or they can utilize that... Whatever that means. That, well, you know, if they can use that, great, but I think that... It has nothing to do... It could make people, it could make women especially even more shallow, or, you know, not necessarily... Society in general. Why are we talking about breasts? Look at the big asses. I mean, everybody's talking about the big ass. Yeah, well, that's another thing. That's another thing. It has nothing to do with your breasts. It has to do with your sensuality and your seductiveness. He's very right. It could be long legs. It could be eyes, doughy eyes. It could be lips. It could be anything. You use what got you to... But that's a good point. What you said about asses. Very true. That's another thing. Right. So now, some women don't have big asses. Now, all of a sudden, at some point, it became this ass implant thing. Right. So it's like, what the fuck? And again, this is the society that kind of, you know, condones it and says, oh, it's wonderful and beautiful. But I don't think society does condone that. I think a lot of people go, that's ridiculous. No, it's a self-image thing. Right. But if you watch the ridiculous, I don't own a TV, okay, as a principle. I tend to think it's disgusting. I hear you. And there's nothing on TV that I want to watch. I hear you. I hear you. And to my, the point is, reality TV is a disgusting genre that mostly pushes this, what you just said. And I refuse to even relate to these things. But this is what it is. The little girls, I don't know, in their teens, watch these shows and that's what they tend to think that is beautiful, positive, good. And if you ask them, what do you want to be as an adult? I don't know. I wanted to be a teacher as a teenager. You did? Yes. I wanted to be a literature teacher because I fell in love with French erotica when I was a teenager. Well, you're an artist. You're an author now. Yes, I am. But originally, this is all I wanted to do. I didn't know I was going to be a sex therapist. Right. But I wanted to, that was my goal. I didn't want to be a celebrity. It's ridiculous. But this is what people want to do. I've always said one of the things that differentiates Jewish kids growing up than a lot of other kids I meet is Jewish kids will have goals to be like an architect or a dentist. Right. Whereas you go to the hood and it's either rapper or a basketball player. As Puerto Rican kids, their goal is to be able to have a McDonald's meal every three days. That's their fucking goal. No, but what I'm saying is, you know, I'm just fucking around. No, but I'm saying, I'm saying, he's right. He's absolutely right what he's saying. It's, yeah, what you aspire to. And it's also the time, you know, and of course, I come from a very different society. I grew up in a, under very different circumstances. And when you grow up in the Middle East, it's very different. You're more aware to things that are important. Right. And it's not like this. But I think in general, it's the time, you know, the time. What we are exposed to is disgusting and really shallow. It's for the stupid, by the stupid. Reality TV, nothing reality. Well, sure. It's been going on for a long time. Do you think, do you think that you bring up like Roman, you know, times and all of that? Do you think that in the past 2000 years, we've gone through phases like that, you know, where there were kind of classes, things where people cared more about what they wore and if you didn't wear a certain thing, then you were lower class or you, you know. Oh, definitely. So, and then, because, I think in this country, it has kind of gone through that. Yeah, it fluctuates. Through that, it fluctuates. I agree. I think it's fluctuating a lot quicker nowadays because, you know, we get sick of things in five years and then it goes the opposite way, especially like with movies and, you know, I'm going to buy a big house. Now I'm going to have a little house. I'm tired of this little house. I'm going to, you know, it goes. I think capitalism dictates that a lot because I don't come from capitalism. I come from a socialist country. People really don't stick to, you know, what they were brought up with. Right, right. They're constantly changing. And I find, you know, I'm very happy that I was brought up differently because I can recognize it. And unfortunately, someone that was born, you know, under these circumstances, it's more difficult to kind of put it together. And now it's just so easy for it to be put in people's, in people's faces, like you said. It's just constant. Yes, yes. And if you're not aware. You know, even with kids. I do a whole stand-up bit about where the problem is that the guys, all the guys of my generation, we learned about women from rap music. Right. We did. You'll have guys walking around. And that's a very bad picture. Well, you'll have guys walking around like, yo, pimps up, dude. Fuck you. Throws before a hose. Yo, fuck you. Fuck those bitches. My God. Dude, you work at Jiffy Lube. Yeah, but you know what? You suck. Yeah, but you know what? Shit dropped you off at work. Yeah, but you know what? You don't have a car. What? You're rolling up. What the fuck are you? You're an 89 Honda Civic with a big fucking purple wing on it that you got from the junkyard. And you're like, what's up, player? I know. Yeah, but you know what, though? Yes. That whole image, like you were saying, with reality TV show, in the 80s with rap videos, you see these black chicks and these Latina chicks with these humongous fucking asses. Yeah. No one ever saw an ass that big. Yeah. Than a Luke Campbell video. Misa Horny or some shit like that, right? Right. But it wasn't that acceptable. Well, I'm not saying it wasn't. Right? I think it was just acceptable within that community. Within the community, but not as a society. It didn't really bleed out. It was empowering within, in that community. Right. And it wasn't that it wasn't acceptable. It was just foreign to people. Right. It wasn't something that bad. But what I'm getting at, it's become acceptable for women, especially women in the hood or whatever. Right. And I've seen Asian women, Japanese women, in this country with black dudes that are rappers and they're like, yo, bitch, what the fuck's wrong with you, man? How you gonna fuck up and keep walking? The women. Yeah, yeah. No, no, no, no. I'm saying that to the women. Yeah. Oh. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. No, no, no. I'm saying that to the women. You say it just like that thug culture. Thug culture. Prison culture has taken over. Well, what I'm saying is it's not just that an Asian society is subservient, but you see this like that's become, you know, it's acceptable within that, within certain circles. But it is because there's, it is because as a society they are subservient. Right. Because some women would not fucking tolerate it. Yeah. You know. Yeah. Because present company included. Yeah. You know, it's ridiculous. Yeah. Someone talking to you, look this way. I know. I can't understand what you're saying. I've been perplexed by it. You've been telling Israeli girls to sit down and shut the fuck up. Yo, yo, yo. I've been. You get an Uzi in your face, motherfucker. Yo, I've been perplexed. She's packing. I know she's packing an Uzi on you somewhere. Dude, dude. I see this shit and I'm going to, I'm saying to myself, what the fuck are you seeing in this ugly ass motherfucker in the first place? It's really sad. And then not even talking to you in a certain way. I don't, I don't understand it. Yeah. I don't get it. So Simon had a question that I asked these guys to email me some questions. So one of the questions he said was, let me see, or was this Rich? I'm not sure. But it's, do you think the conservative view, I think this was Rich's and then Simon's was kind of similar. Yes. So do you think that the conservative view of sex in American society contributes to sexually related crimes? I think also the suppression of sex. Definitely. Your question was more about perversion, right? Well, I think we actually tackled my question and my question was about, well, my question is, I mean, are we finding out more about things that are more sexually perverse because of free speech, but they've always been going on or has society become more perverse? I don't think so. Is it the taboo? Is it the taboo that engages that, you know? Yeah, but I honestly think that it's quite the contrary because if you look at movies, for instance, in the 70s, there's much more nudity, there's much more profanity. No. No. Back in the 70s? Yes. Yeah. If you look at like... There was, yeah. Yeah, I mean... They would have graphic scenes, you know, and stuff like that. Oh, they would have extremely graphic scenes, extremely profane speech. But nobody could see that. Not nobody, I'm sorry. Nobody pinpointed it. It's not, it wasn't as accessible. Only people, you know, like now you could see that all, you know... I don't know, Saturday Night Fever, I mean, you watch these movies. Yeah, but now 14-year-old kids are seeing this stuff. You said you don't have a TV. If you watch a show like Game of Thrones or Boardwalk Empire... It is, I don't know. There is not a woman on that show that doesn't show her breasts. Right. It's almost disgusting. But a lot of that stuff is pretty good. As a fan of those shows, as a fan of those shows, I don't... She's a great actress. Necessarily, I want to see her tits. Why does every single woman... Yeah, because it's like a requirement. There's not a show on HBO that doesn't have something gay in it. As a man... I do find it a problem. As a man, I'm a... I do take it... I take offense and I've always taken offense to watching a movie. Yes. For instance, what the hell was that? Desperado or something like that? Robert Rodriguez. Salma Hayek. It's one of Salma Hayek's first movies where out of the blue, she takes off... You know, she's having sex with Antonio Banderas and she's completely naked. And I'm thinking, why is she there like that? I didn't need to see that other than it's just for two of the sex. It was a good movie. Up until... Yeah. And then they be like... You know, you can't handle it with that shit. You know what I mean? That's what I feel. And I don't have a problem with nudity in TV shows or whatever as long as it's part of the story and relevant. If it's relevant. In the movie Airplane, they spoofed that. Yeah. Because the plane was going down and some random woman jumps in naked in front of the screen and jumps off. I mean, that's so stupid. But all... No, they were spoofing. Yeah. Oh, okay. But at the same time... But at the same time... I'm joking about it. But at the same time, they had the same effect. Right. You see what I'm saying? Yeah. So they got to show some boobs. Well, for me, I was 13 when I was like, oh my God, yeah. Wait, rewind, rewind, rewind. Again and again and again and again. It's like opening a card. That's the listening test. So I have, you know, there's so many things that we could talk about. Yeah. You know, we could have you on the show again. There's so many things to talk about. But there was an article. I mean, I read these articles. That's something to the guys. There's a 19-year-old guy, right? Yeah. He works at a roller rink in Northridge. Okay. Okay. So this guy, Julian Christopher Flores, 19, who worked at Northridge Skateland at whatever the fuck, Partenia Street, was arrested on December 21st after a boy told his grandmother about an incident with Flores. According to court records, I think he was touching, what the fuck was he doing? Hold on a second. Touching his feet. He was rubbing his feet. He had a foot fetish. He had a foot fetish. Okay. Yeah. I just love that. I just love that. I just love that. That's the face you just made. I want to get to that face. But so, so he, oh yeah, he was, he was, he admitted, he has a foot fetish and he admitted to have rubbed the feet of about 200 boys on his face and hands in the rink's maintenance room according to court records. Okay. So, so number one, as a sex therapist, right? So I don't get the fucking foot fetish thing. I don't get it. What is it? Tell me, please help me out. Well, fetishism in general is very common and very healthy. Right. I love it. But what's about the feet? Well, yeah, go ahead. I thought the definition of a fetish is you need it to get off. Yeah, it's, it's, it's partially, yeah, it's very close to the truth. So how is that healthy? When, well, he's talking about a specific, no, that's not healthy. I don't want to, I don't want to get distracted. That was one of my questions actually. Are fetishes a result of an environment upbringing or are they built in from the get go? I just want to get into the foot fetish thing. So I'll relate to both. First of all, fetishism is acceptable. It's common. It's very, it's very necessary for arousal. When it does come, become a problem is where it becomes a paraphilia. And this is what you're talking about. Paraphilia. Paraphilia is a situation, it's a condition where it's mental. It's a mental condition. You can't control yourself. And you can't control it and it affects your life in a very problematic way. Negative way, yeah. Yes. Now what you're talking about with this guy is sounds like a paraphilia because it allows him. He's 19 years old so he was born with this obviously. Well, you know, it depends on circumstances of life and a lot of other things but I'll relate to that. But the thing is that fetishism per se is necessary and okay. Right. And, but when it becomes a paraphilia it can become something that is a problem. Do you find a link between paraphilia and roller skating rink employees? That is a good question. No, but I'm curious. I'm curious about the fetish in general. He's going to go get a job over at a shoe store. Well, the first thing I thought about this, the first thing I thought was okay, that seems wrong. Well, it is wrong. But he didn't do anything. He didn't do anything. He just rubbed, he just rubbed his face Yeah, and he came. with little, well, it didn't say that. It didn't say that. Well, you don't need to know it. No, no, it says, it says it rubbed the feet. It wasn't to climax using that. No, but it didn't say he had an orgasm. Of course it didn't say that because he didn't show. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah, go out for the night, get a couple beers, a couple toddler feet. He put those on at the time. This is what he did. I want to say about foot fetish. He took that experience and he put it in a spank bank and he went home. He could have climaxed in his pants without anybody knowing, which I'm sure he did. Right. But I want to say about foot fetish. But this is as harmless as someone. It's not harmless. It's not harmless because it's kind of a form of a molestation. Yeah, it is. And it is a problem. But I want to say about foot fetishism in general, it's obviously, you know, about foot binding and the whole idea in Eastern cultures. Right. But the thing is, it's really, it became, you know, it's such a fundamental thing because foot binding created such a problem in this society. I don't know if you know, it was three inches. Yeah. It's called the three inches lotus. Yes. That's similar to breast. I've seen a Japanese bound woman's foot. Yes. I've seen it in a museum. It's really three inches. Three inches, yeah. And the thing is... Crazy. I saw it on the Dark Mark show. Yeah. Oh my God. And the thing is, what is even more interesting and profound about it is that the three inches lotus that they called it, the three inches lotus the bound feet is also what they call the vagina. Okay. Okay? So there's a big correlation between the foot and the vagina. And that is the main reason where foot fetishism comes from. Okay. But do you think this guy, do you think this Latino that's 19 years old, Julian Christopher Flores, this is a subconscious thing for him. Right. At some point, maybe somebody molested him and rubbed their feet on his face. I don't know his history and so I can't make a decision. I'm just curious about something like that. It's definitely a paraphilia that should be attended to. Because, well, he's attending to it. He's got a job at the roller rink. No, no, no. Someone needs to attend to it and take care of it. Hold on. Pick a fuck up all your foot fetish motherfuckers. Pick a fuck up all your little three bound foot three inches motherfucking pussy clod. Pick a fuck up all you roller skate and roller rink motherfuckers. You know what I mean? Yo, to all my Northridge roller skate rinking foot fetish and rubbing toe clipping, toenail licking motherfuckers. Pop, pop, pop, pop, pop. Yeah, this is, I, I, see a part of me thought, fuck, this guy should have waited like maybe 10 years so when he's 29. That's the thing. Well, here's the thing. You wait till you're 29. No, it's hard to wait. You see all these little feet walking by. Hold it. You wait till you're 29. They're wearing their Spongebob light up shoes. Dude, dude, you wait till you're 29 and then you get a job at a fucking foot spa. I know. And you fucking get paid to rub women's feet. Well, no, he, he likes to try and think it through. He didn't think it through. No, it's not even that. I don't think he can, he can control it. Right. When it's a paraphilia, you cannot really control it. Right. Yeah. So, so, so then here's the other thing that, that, that I was reading. There's a 28 year old Fullerton teacher. Her name was Melissa Lindgren, 28, of La Mirada. So she's teaching, I guess, junior high school students. Yes. And she gets bused up and she gets busted or, I guess the story goes, she was having inappropriate relations with two boys, probably more than just two boys. And they were between the ages of 13 and 15. In the classroom, in the car, exchanging texts, she was sending them. Did she sleep with him? It wasn't clear. Okay. But she was sending them inappropriate texts with her news. It was a sexual relationship. Yeah. So, so, of sexual nature. I'm trying to figure out Yeah, she's coming on the show next week. Yeah, I'm trying to find this other fucking article, these dumb articles. The website didn't open up. Anyway. What was the problem? Well, no, the problem is that I'm thinking that's every boy's fantasy to have their teacher. It is very funny. I don't know if you caught my last show, but I actually spoke about it and I brought the story of Mary Kay Letono as, I don't know if you guys remember. Sure. She was a blonde teacher that had an affair with her second grade. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I think I remember that. Yes. That was a few years ago, though, right? In the late 90s. Yeah, she's at a jail now. They have four kids. Yeah. They have four kids together. She was in jail for a long time. She had their second child actually in jail. And so what I have to say about this is that, of course, I cannot condone, you know, a grown woman taking advantage of a child. It doesn't matter if it's a fantasy. Right. And by the way, they were, as a couple, hosting a lot of evenings, like fun evenings called Hot for Teacher. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So I have to say that it's a mess of a theme and I find it very hypocritical in society that we are, this is the reverse double standard. Yeah. Because if a man, and I gave the example of Woody Allen, and again, I'm not saying anything, you know, she was 20 and I'm not going to go into this whole relationship that he had with his adopted daughter. Right, right, right. But in general, when a man is having a relationship with a younger woman, even if she's not underage, everybody is looking at him as a dirty old man. But when a woman, because she's attractive and there's a kid that she's touching, it's great. Everybody's like, I wish my teacher was fucking me. Right. You know, it's like, I really don't appreciate it. That's a problem with society. And then right after Mary Kay, there was that really hot girl down in Florida. Yeah, all of them were hot. No, well, but that made like, she was smoking hot. She was a bombshell. But I'm saying, this woman is... That is one newspaper article, we never heard of it again. So I guess we are hot. This woman is attractive. They're usually fairly attractive. They are. And they were all like blonde, like Christy Brinkley. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Very hulked up. Exactly. Yes. So, but this is society. I'm glad. If I'm 13 and I'm getting laid, that's great. Are you kidding me? If I was in fifth grade, you know how many fucking times I didn't even know how to jerk off at that age. Right, right. Straight up. I made out with my babysitter, but she was only like two years old. You know how much sexual repression she was through? Do you know how much sexual repression when an older woman... Yeah, I was. I had sex with her. Do you know how much sexual repression there is from when you're older? From when you're an adult. From adolescence to the time you get to have your first sexual experience as a man? Yeah. I mean, as a man, as a boy, at the age of 13, I mean, I could see if she's abusing them. That's another story. But if she's... Yeah, but this is rape, you know, by law. Yeah. But the thing is, society looks at it as, oh, wow, that's great. Everybody's masturbating about it. Well, but really, society has put safeguards in place. We've set a cutoff point. Right. 18 is the cutoff point. In most states. Yes. There is age of consent. Yeah. It's true. But the thing is, I'm not talking about law-wise. I'm talking about society, the way we look at it. Yeah. $100,000 bail. This happened sometime in February. She's due April 9th, which was yesterday. That's why I looked it up. Yeah. To be in court. Yes. So I had this other article. Anyway, my whole thing was that the boys, this happened for two years. Yes. So the boys were consensual. You know, it was consensual. Yeah, but they're not, they cannot be consensual because they're kids. That's the whole thing. I mean, yeah, it can't be like, if you molest, there's kids that get molested by their uncles over the course of 10 years. Right. Is it consensual? Like, length of time doesn't, Yeah, but family is a taboo. Yeah, but you have to say, but the thing is, is that the teacher should know better. It's not even that. And when you are underage, this is where the law comes in. Yes, especially if there's a hierarchy, if that's a teacher and a student. Somebody that's more powerful. Right. And I want to say something about family with taboos. Yeah. By the way, incest is not against the law if it's to a benefit, if it's to adults. So a father can have sex with his daughter. And that is our National Sibling Day announcement. Today is National Sibling Day. But I'm saying, as long as you're underage. Yes, but the thing is, you know, it's again. Support for NPR comes from National Sibling Day. If you want to rub and tug your brother, do it today. It's okay. But yeah, I mean, yes, it's very rude. Support for NPR. Yeah. Anyway, so we're coming down to the last couple of minutes of the show. So there's so many questions. Wait, there's one here. Slut versus whore. Oh, that was my favorite. I'll tell you the difference. A slut is a free whore. No, no, no, no. The other one was just a little more of a WrestleMania match. Yeah, yeah. Get the fuck out. Okay, so real quick, real quick. From a woman's perspective, because I hear Ginger Lynn, who has a show, she'll be like, I'm a slut, not a whore. Some women will go this, any other. What is the difference and why should anybody care? Well, I have, and I want to say before I answer it, I want to say that I completely support prostitution and I think it's necessary. I think in every setting. That's another show. Hold on, hold on. You're coming on the show when we do a show on prostitution. I think it's very necessary. But see, the state has to tell what a woman can and can't do. That's not the question. Well, I can go on and on about this, but it's a problem. A slut and a whore, to me, they're both disgusting topics. Terms. It shouldn't, yeah, it shouldn't really be related to women because you should do whatever the fuck you want. Sure. And slut shaming or whore shaming is the same to me and I have to say this, that women get most of these accusations by women. Right. Hmm. Yes. And this is scientifically proven. Right, right. I'm talking empirically. Cattiness, like cattiness. Empirically. And the last thing I'll say is that the proof to it is even in history or even in literature, when you read the Scarlet Letter, Hawthorne's, you see that the women in the story were more interested in the heron's death than any other people in this society. Got it. There were, I can even quote from that. Got it. But they were really interested in putting the hussy to death because she was doing something against their... Well, but also, it's the pecking order, especially back in the ancient world. Your sexuality was your sword. Right, right. And same today. So we have 50-something seconds, so we're going to tighten this all up. Sex and Dippity is on what day again? On Sunday between 5 and 6. Sunday nights between 5 p.m. and 6 p.m. here on skidrowstudios.com. Catch Dr. Lamore Blockman's show, Sex and Dippity. You get more of her insight on it. We definitely got to have you back because there's no way, I mean, there's 50 million questions. Prostitution is an amazing topic. Yes. I'm definitely interested. As soon as we figure it out, I'll see if we can come back and do it. Yeah, we're going to have a collection box in the corner. Yeah. All right, so thanks for tuning in to Nestorius Public Radio. Check us out on Facebook, Nestorius Public Radio. That's forward slash Nestorius Public Radio. Follow us on Twitter, Nestorius NYC. And check us out every Thursday night, 9 p.m. to 10 p.m. Pacific Standard Time. We'll see you next time. Tell your motherfucking friends, you know what I'm saying? Eastern Standard Time. Midnight to 1 a.m. East Coast, motherfuckers.